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How to stop this bad money habit, once and for all

Does the following situation sound familiar? After a long day at work, you come home worn out. You order takeout because you don’t have the energy to cook, and you pay with your credit card because you don’t have cash in your wallet. Once you’ve eaten, you turn on the TV, but you’re immediately distracted by a social media notification on your phone. You end up mindlessly scrolling, telling yourself it’s all a harmless distraction until you become captivated by a product in your feed. You come to find the product is advertised at 25% off but only while supplies last. So you hastily add the product to your cart, paying $75 instead of the normal $100, and again charge your credit card because next month’s statement is not on your radar tonight.

Congratulations! You just spent a bunch of money that you probably didn’t intend to on a weeknight. If this sounds like you, take heart, you aren’t alone.

Why does this happen to us? Well, your brain got tired and sort of went on autopilot. While your brain was checked out, savvy marketers took advantage of its depleted dopamine state that values today’s pleasure over tomorrow’s savings. Here are some ways you can use your money and credit more responsibly.

Imagine What Your Night Would Have Looked Like If Your Best Self Were In Charge

If you weren’t so tired and hadn’t fallen into that well-worn trench of your evening routine, maybe your night would have been different. You would have cooked dinner instead of ordering takeout. You would have stopped at the gym instead of driving straight home. Maybe you would have decided to check some items off your to-do list, like paying bills or doing the laundry, instead of sitting on the couch. So why didn’t you? Behavioral finance, the study of the psychology behind financial decision-making, has answers for you. This field of study is powerful because it identifies the obvious, everyday financial pitfalls we experience, in an attempt to develop possible solutions.

You Know This Already: When You’re Tired You Have Less Willpower

Psychologist Roy Baumeister and his colleagues’ research demonstrates that when we exert ourselves mentally, like a hard day at work, it depletes a limited resource — willpower.

Willpower is like a muscle: when you flex it, it gets tired, and it needs rest to operate again at its full strength. In one experiment, Dr. Baumeister’s team asked people to eat radishes while looking at a tempting chocolate dessert. Torturous, right? Afterwards they were administered a puzzle that was impossible to solve and were observed to see how long they persisted in trying to solve it. They found radish eaters gave up twice as quickly as those that hadn’t been tempted.

Here’s an important thing to recognize — pleasure-seeking in the here and now is our natural state. Sitting on the couch and doom-scrolling is the default for most of us, rather than, say going to the gym, an act of will.

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Can you recognize when you have low willpower and delay decisions to later? For example, don’t make big decisions while you’re hungry, like the judges in this study who denied parole because they were hangry. Another tactic is to make a decision ahead of time, like putting screen time limits on your phone or meal prepping.

The Habits That Drain Your Wallet Aren’t Always Obvious

In our hypothetical example, you probably started scrolling social media out of habit. Your habit put you on the path of waiting marketers who then took advantage of your diminishing willpower.

Pay attention to these automatic or autopilot behaviors. Are there things you’re spending money on that are now simply a habit, or worse, on autopay? Habits are amazingly powerful in the way that they dictate our actions. Consider your morning routine. You don’t have to think about how to brush your teeth, put on clothes, or make the bed. You simply do it.

For years, Millennials have been making fun of Boomer’s “skip the latte” financial advice because those saved dollars aren’t going to pay off thousands of dollars of student loans or make a downpayment on a home.

While in today’s financial world, a penny saved doesn’t necessarily translate to a penny earned, your caffeine cash does add up. Your daily purchase of a single-origin doppio latte with two pumps of pumpkin spice syrup, though momentarily satisfying, is still a cash-draining habit.

Social media also has a more subtle effect on your budget; it puts us in the path of advertisers who prey on us when we’re at our most vulnerable.

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Once you’ve identified a habit that’s hurting your budget, try implementing some changes. The old proverb, “out of sight, out of mind,” is tried and true for habit-breaking. For social media or other mobile shopping platforms, deleting apps can make it easier to break the habit by reducing your exposure. Another successful approach is substitution. Instead of scrolling through social media, read the news or play a game, like Wordle.

Yes, Marketers Are Using Your Psychology to Sell More

You’re on the couch in your weakened willpower state, and marketers have a direct line into your psyche via your phone, which functions both as a convenient marketing tool and wallet. To help you identify when you’re being targeted, we’ve outlined some of the psychological tactics that marketers use.

Marketers Set Your Point of Reference to the List Price

Saving $25 dollars is great. But are you really saving $25? Anchoring is when we set a reference of some sort and evaluate our circumstances from that reference point. Because we’re anchored at $100, we convince ourselves we’re saving $25 dollars instead of spending $75.

Normally, your actively thinking brain can see right through this mental trap. But you don’t, because your brain is currently vegging out on the couch, low on willpower, and ready to mindlessly charge instead of thoughtfully spend. Anchoring happens everywhere, even in cases like discounts on auto insurance.

Marketers Use Your FOMO

Next, you, and the rest of humanity are driven by the fear of missing out on products, experiences, and events. Psychologists call this loss aversion, but we all know it as FOMO or fear of missing out. FOMO is a real psychological phenomenon revealing that the threat of a loss can be a more powerful motivator than a positive benefit. Marketers are coupling your brain’s perceived benefit of the product with its FOMO-prone tendency.

TIP: Recognize that when you see yourself responding to an advertised offer, you’re being manipulated. If you really need something, you’re going to do the searching and shopping — it won’t just magically appear in your feed. If you do end up with an “add to cart,” give yourself a 24-hour grace period before purchasing it.

Credit Cards Increase the Amount of Money You Spend

Finally in our weeknight example, you used your credit card that’s saved in your phone to pay for your spontaneous purchases. Credit cards make it easy to spend money, because you don’t have to worry about having cash, and your purchases are more easily justified through credit card lender’s reward programs. It can feel impossible to get through the day without making purchases with your credit cards, but leaving your card at home may help you save money.

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Checking your credit card balance can help you connect to what you owe and avoid one of the biggest mistakes in managing your credit card. One way to help build this habit is to bundle it with another activity. For instance, you could delay social media use until you’ve checked your credit card balance.

Know Who’s In Charge

Many of our financial mistakes boil down to not recognizing which version of ourselves is running the show. Much of our lives is governed by habit. It’s what makes us susceptible to marketing messages or missing simple math problems. If you can shift your decision-making to times when your willpower is highest, you’ll have better financial outcomes, like treating yourself to a Friday night out, rather than overspending on a Tuesday night.

This article originally appeared on MoneyGeek and was syndicated by MediaFeed.

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Just married? Avoid these big money mistakes

Just married? Avoid these big money mistakes

Financial issues are often cited as a leading cause of divorce in the U.S., which means it likely makes sense for young couples to take a long, hard look at how money and marriage can work together. Many newly married couples make common money mistakes at first because they don’t think about and plan for important financial decisions.

This could include what you need to do to buy your first home or money moves to make when you’re young, especially if you’re young and married.

After you’ve said “I do” to your significant other, take certain steps to avoid these money mistakes newlyweds make. Doing so may bring you closer to achieving your financial goals.

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It’s natural to feel like the money you earn and put into your savings account or checking account is yours. You may have been living like this for many years. But when you get married, you enter into a partnership with your spouse. You share things and work together to achieve common goals.

But if you don’t share your money, it can be difficult to share a feeling of cohesion and stay on the same page with your finances. Getting a joint account, such as a joint savings account, makes a lot of sense for married couples. You both get to contribute, if applicable, to your shared funds and it could make it easier for both of you to track your finances.

Use the best savings accounts to help boost your savings. These accounts typically outperform traditional savings accounts when it comes to how much interest you can earn over time.

If either party enters a marriage with pre-existing debt, it may be up to the both of you to work on erasing that debt together. This could involve dealing with student loans, credit card debt, or other types of debt. You may have promised to take care of each other, which includes being there for each other in a financial sense.

Becoming debt-free is important for anyone. But learning how to manage your money as a married couple can help strengthen your relationship and financial knowledge. In contrast, letting your spouse tackle their pre-existing debt without offering your support probably won’t foster a feeling of mutual understanding and kindness.

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Newly married couples often have a million things on their minds, but retirement savings likely isn’t one of them. When you’re worried about buying a house, starting a family, or paying for your honeymoon, what time is left over to worry about retirement?

Unfortunately, it’s a good thing to think about sooner rather than later. Retirement planning doesn’t automatically happen as you get older, and it can get more difficult to save up the retirement funds you want the longer you wait.

Learn how to save for retirement today instead of putting it off for tomorrow.

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Budgeting is essential if you’re newly married and working to achieve financial goals together. Creating your household budget typically consists of reviewing your monthly income, monthly expenses, and spending habits. Once you know what you have coming in and what’s going out of your budget, it’s easier to find areas where you can adjust things.

This can include cutting down on expenses, especially if you’re trying to achieve certain savings goals. You may not be able to remove necessary expenses, such as groceries, but figuring out ways to reduce your overall expenses can help you budget more efficiently. This is possible on your own, but using budgeting apps can help streamline the process

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The price of a home will vary depending on where you live and what you’re looking for. But no matter what, it’s unlikely to be cheap. In many cases, you’re looking at hundreds of thousands of dollars. Of course, if you’re saving up for only the down payment, it will be a lot less.

Let’s say you want a $250,000 home. It’s often recommended that you pay at least 20% as a down payment, which would be $50,000. If you want to buy a house in five years, you would need to save $10,000 per year or about $833 per month for five years. However, these calculations work only if you start saving right now.

In addition, it could help if you improve your credit score so you can qualify for loans from the best mortgage lenders.

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If you’re planning on having a family down the road, your finances should be top of mind. But knowing how to save moneybefore you have a family is key. This could mean cutting down on costs in a variety of ways and places, such as your monthly utility or cable bills, groceries, or your cellphone.

If you can put aside money now into savings, you could potentially have a lot more financial stability when you add to your family. Consider the many costs associated with having kids, such as diapers, clothes, toys, food, entertainment, and much more. Now calculate how much that could all be and you’ll be in the range of what you need to start saving.

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In addition to providing life’s necessities, you might also want to give your kids the opportunity to get a college education. It may seem like it’s far enough away to hold off on planning for it, but making the right moves now could potentially help you build a college fund over time.

When you first get married, you might not be able to afford much. So putting tens of thousands of dollars into a bank account for your kid’s future college education probably won’t be possible — at least not right away. But if you learn to budget and put away a little money at a time, your goal becomes more attainable.

For example, $100 a month for 18 years is $21,600. That’s nothing to sneeze at. But you can adjust the amount of money you save each month, especially if your income increases.

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Life insurance probably wasn’t more than a passing thought when you were single. But getting married and potentially starting a family means there are more people in your life to worry about than just yourself.

The purpose of life insurance is to make sure the people who depend on you financially will be taken care of if you die. The money from life insurance can help cover lost income, pay for funeral expenses, and give your loved ones time to grieve instead of having to worry about finances.

See our list of the best life insurance companies to find a policy that fits your situation. Keep in mind that life insurance is typically more affordable when you’re young.

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Drafting a will has a similar purpose to getting life insurance: You want to make sure everything is taken care of financially if you die. However, a will is more about who gets what instead of a beneficiary receiving a certain amount of money from a death benefit.

This is important because the state you reside in will decide what happens to your money, property, and assets if you don’t have a legally binding document (aka, a will) to dictate your wishes. If you want everything divided according to your wishes, get a will drafted up and set in place.

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Money can be a hot topic, and it’s a subject some married couples don’t want to bring up. But avoiding honest conversations about how you’re going to handle financial decisions in your marriage isn’t a solution that’s likely to pay off.

It might be difficult to approach, but sit down with your spouse and discuss your finances. Make sure it’s an honest but productive conversation. The purpose is to help each other set goals and then encourage each other to reach them.

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Starting a new life together may coincide with moving into a new place or starting to live together. This can prompt a desire to make changes in your home, like upgrading your furniture and home decor. Although it sounds exciting, and you might be riding the excitement of getting married and going on a honeymoon, home furnishings can be expensive.

Purchases for new couches, tables, paint, chairs, and other home decor items will quickly add up. It’s tempting to have everything be brand new and to make big, dramatic changes after such a huge life event. But spending money on unnecessary things may not create the best financial situation to start off your marriage.

Instead of spending money, focus on budgeting and saving your money.

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Learning how to manage your money doesn’t happen overnight. And sometimes it makes sense to seek additional help. If you feel like you could use some financial guidance, work with a financial advisor to help you establish a clear path.

Financial advisors can vary depending on their specialty. Before going with the first financial advisor you see, be sure they have the knowledge and experience to help with your unique situation. This could include experience with tax planning, investment management, budgeting, getting out of debt, and more.

It may be an investment to hire a financial advisor or planner, but if it teaches you important financial lessons you can use for the rest of your life, it could be worth it.

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Everyone makes mistakes, especially when you’re adjusting to new circumstances or going through a learning process. But that doesn’t mean you can’t prepare yourself ahead of time to make as few mistakes as possible. And that includes learning how to manage your money as a newly married couple.

Take money tension out of your relationship by setting and working toward financial goals together. This will help you increase your overall financial awareness and keep you both on the same page when it comes to shared money. Not to mention, you’re likely to have increased financial stability years down the road if you work to avoid money mistakes now.

This article originally appeared on FinanceBuzz.com and was syndicated by MediaFeed.org.

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